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A mistake most salespeople make

A mistake most salespeople make
The other day, I posted a TikTok about the #1 reason your prospect says, “Let me think about it,” in the sales conversation.

If you missed it, you can click here to watch that TikTok video.

Now I’d like to dive a bit deeper into this concept.

When most salespeople are approached with this objection ("let me think about it"), they view it as a bad thing.

Most people view objections as roadblocks to the sale.

But really, they’re not. The truth is, objections are inevitable. And they’re a natural part of the sales conversation.

As I mentioned in the video, all objections are simply smokescreens for uncertainty.

Instead of viewing objections as hurdles to the close, I like to think of objections as more of an opportunity. An opportunity to create micro-agreements in the mind of the prospect so that you can take them from a “no,” or a “maybe,” to a “yes.”

If there’s something I’ve learned over the last 35 years working as an entrepreneur, it’s this:

When prospects bring up objections, the last thing they want to do is argue with you.

It’s not your job to meet their objection with your argument on why they’re wrong and why you’re right. All that does is break rapport.

People don’t like to be talked at. They like to be heard, understood, and listened to.

So instead, it’s your job to put the objection aside and to simply say something like:

“I hear what you’re saying, Jim. But let me ask you something. Do you like the idea? Does the idea make sense to you?”

And that way, instead of assuming what they’re thinking and telling them what you think they want, you’re actually asking them if they - themselves - like the idea.

Instead of talking at them, you’re including them and their point of view into the conversation.

And once they say yes, you have enough rapport to start building their certainty again.

The ball is then in your court.

So next time you’re met with an objection, don’t freak out. Take a deep breath and center the conversation back to the question:

“Do you like the idea? Does the idea make sense to you?”

I hope this tip helps you in your next sales conversation.

If you’re interested in diving even deeper into sales – without spending a dime – I’d like to invite you to join me for my 4-part Sales Training!

Pre-registration has opened up, so be sure to take advantage of it and to block your calendar off for October 8, 15, 22, and 29.

Once again, you can click here to sign up.

Let’s all grow in sales together!

A lesson my 5 year old taught me

A lesson my 5 year old taught me
We’ve all had those moments of epiphany…

Those moments when our young children teach us a life lesson about ourselves or reveal a great truth unknown to the average person.

Something I’ve noticed in my boys, Caleb and Emerson, is that they’re not afraid to ask for what they want.

I’m amazed at the level of skill they have when it comes to asking for what they want – and in such an influential way.

Emerson will come into the kitchen and ask what’s for dinner, and nonchalantly say something like, “Well, do you think we could have dessert after?” –  In the most cute and unassuming way.

In his mind, he has a great expectation for dessert. He knows he wants it, and he feels it’s a reasonable request. So, naturally, he asks without much thought.

He doesn’t second guess himself or think to himself, “It’s not worth it. What if they say no? What are they going to think of me?”

No – that’s just silly. But how many times do we get hung up on the possibility of a “no,” when we’re asking someone for something?

How many times do we feel uncomfortable asking for what we want? Specifically in sales, think about how you feel when asking for the close.

Do you feel hesitant or doubtful before you’ve even asked?

Why is it so much easier for Caleb and Emerson to ask for things?

Well, probably because they haven’t developed that insecurity, fear, or lack of competence around speaking their truth and asking for what they want.

But so many of us have. We’ve been conditioned to stay in our comfort zone, and we have this belief that asking for what we want is considered overstepping. Not only that, but typically asking for what we want requires us to get out of our comfort zone and into the unknown.

And we don’t like that. We've all been told, "better safe than sorry."

What if we started viewing our sales conversations in the way that Emerson and Caleb approach asking for what they want?

Maybe we’re making it more complicated than it needs to be.

What if, instead, we began to approach our sales conversations like this:

  1. With the firm belief that when you’re asking someone to buy from you, it’s a reasonable request.

Think about it. When you approach it like this, you’ll start to ask in a way where you truly believe there's a good reason for them to say yes – ultimately reminding them of the emotions they’ll experience if they decide to move forward with you in that positive direction.

  1. Not being afraid to ask for it because you know it’s ultimately going to help them and serve them.

If what you’re offering is a program that they need, it’s about stepping forward with confidence and the right communication to share how this is going to help them, and why they need to take this step. It’s about not backing down or hesitating during that final step of asking for the close.

What a profound lesson from two young boys, am I wrong?


I encourage you to start thinking like this next time you go in for the close. Think about it from a child's perspective and don't overcomplicate it in your mind.

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What problem do YOU solve for your clients?

What problem do YOU solve for your clients?
Earlier this week, I shared 4 things that economic recessions have taught me.

If you missed that email, you can access it here on my blog.

And now, I’d like to expand a bit on one of the lessons I shared in that email – lesson #4: To truly thrive in an economic downturn, the best thing you can do is get better at selling.

Now, you might be thinking, “of course, Paul. This is just common sense.”

And I agree. It isn’t rocket science that the more you sell, the more income you generate, and the better your business stands financially…

But when it comes to sales, there’s a right way and a wrong way to do things.

And knowing the right way is what’s going to make all the difference for you.

So instead of just leaving you with the fact that sales is key, I’m going to share some practical ways you can up your sales game – because simply knowing that sales is important isn’t going to make you better at sales.

So let’s start off by thinking about this.

Sales, at its highest level, is the transference of the emotion of certainty.

So, the more certainty that you pass into the mind of the buyer, the higher likelihood they’ll say yes and jump in on whatever you’re offering.

Now, the question is: where does certainty come from?

It starts with YOU. If you aren’t certain of yourself and your ability to articulate your value, you just won’t perform at the level that you could be performing at…

So today, I want to share a quick exercise with you to cultivate certainty in yourself and clarity on the value you bring to your clients.

It all starts with getting clear on who you are and what it is you do.

Up until now, you may have thought of yourself as simply: a coach, a speaker, a trainer, a business owner, or whatever other one-word title you’d put next to your name.

But today, I want you to think about the exact problem that you solve for your clients.

So instead of simply saying, “I’m a coach,”

Come up with a phrase that describes what problem you solve for your clients.

A good example of this would be: “I help people discover exactly what it is they’re uniquely gifted at so they can play with their strengths, tap into their full potential, and live a fulfilled life.”

Maybe instead of just saying, “I’m a hairstylist,” you could come up with something that describes what you do for your clients.

What feeling do you instill into your clients? What problem do you solve for them?

Instead, you could say, “My passion is to help people go from having bad hair days to feeling confident and ready to take on the world,”

I challenge you to spend 5 minutes (or however long it takes you) and come up with a phrase that explains exactly what you do in a way that would sound appealing to clients and in a way that articulates what problem you solve for them.

I’d love to hear what it is that YOU do. If you want to share what you came up with, please email me at connect@yourempoweredlife.com and I’ll share some of the winning mantras in an upcoming email.

One other thing: if you want to take an even deeper dive into sales, to cultivate more certainty in yourself and in your prospects, and really get good at sales, I’d like to invite you to the Sales Training classes that I’ll be hosting in just a couple months – at no cost to you!

You can register to join right here.

I hope to connect more with you then!